Time: 1 Hour
STEP 1: For those who cannot drive, or are going through a difficult situation, offer to take them where they need to go. If they give you permission, attend a doctor’s appointment with them and take notes so they can look at the doctor. Offer to cook them a meal or help out around the house—anything to relieve some of their burden and show your support. The things that may seem insignificant to you can be the most meaningful and memorable to those who are struggling. In doing this with and for them, you will grow closer in your relationship and feel a mutual respect and alliance form between you.
STEP 2: While driving, ask questions to get them talking. This may help them open up and share their needs or concerns. If they are not ready or willing to open up about what’s causing them stress, engaging them in a fun, positive or interesting conversation can really help to take their mind off things for a while and encourage them to retain a sense of normalcy in their lives. Remind them that they are capable of having normalcy even when they feel overwhelmed by their problems.
STEP 3: If they have an appointment, court date or session, ask them if they want you to be present, or to wait in the waiting room. Respect their wishes and be there for them however they will let you.
STEP 4: Afterwards, ask them if they have time for coffee or a snack. Give them time to process out loud or simply not be alone with their thoughts. Hold their hand, hug them, whatever will give them comfort. You will likely feel better having spent that time with them and you will feel closer to this person—you are experiencing life together and your bond will continue to strengthen. If and when you are in need of support, this person will likely be there for you too.
