Time: < 1 Hour
STEP 1: Let those you care about know that you are available for them and will help in whatever way you can. Don’t pressure anyone to share feelings or thoughts with you that they aren’t comfortable discussing—be open-minded, patient, and communicative so they know you respect their boundaries and wishes. Sometimes a good way to establish this aspect of a relationship/friendship is to open up to them first. That way, they won’t feel pushed to be the first to show vulnerability and can both give and receive support. They will be grateful for your respect and consideration.
STEP 2: For those who aren’t as readily transparent, make sure you have 1:1 time with them and are asking questions, giving them the floor to talk and express any concerns. In these instances, it is extra important to avoid trying to “fix” the person’s situation by constantly providing suggestions or advice—oftentimes what is the most helpful is for you to be an active listener who remains unbiased and supportive, without offering up your own thoughts. If they want your input, they will likely ask for it. Many of people need someone to listen, especially if they live alone or don’t have a roommate to whom they can share concerns. Some people are more open with their needs, while others tend to bottle it up and do not share easily.
STEP 3: If you realize that they don’t want to talk, go do something fun together…grab ice cream, take a walk at the park, or go to a local event. Having fun and making memories will help increase trust and can be just as helpful in showing that person you care about them and they can trust you to support them.
